I have written numerous times about one of my favourite books - The Freedom of Simplicity by Richard Foster. Whilst it’s a faith based book the lessons can be translated into a secular context.
At times in my life I have become aware that I have worried about what others may think of me, when straying from the lesson of this book. You need to be the true version of yourself and not try to impress others with a false image of yourself. Freedom comes from being you. Not trying to project a perfect version of yourself.
For example, in the past I have written and spoken about my disappointment at not being appointed the Sports Minister by Gordon Brown in the 2007 reshuffle - but then realising the depressing feeling I had was because I feared others would judge me a failure for not ‘winning’ the job. It was not actually something I sought and probably didn’t want or have the aptitude for. Once I realised I was still myself, and content with the decision I felt this new freedom just to be me and not seek status or friends though a role, promotion or specific position. I just needed to be me.
I am currently in the transition phase of ‘retirement’ as many of you know (and probably sick about hearing about). I am taking longer breaks away from my volunteering, taking less paid gigs and disappearing from social media for longer periods. I don’t feel the need to post every day to capture attention!
But this is a why this quote was timely, I am wanting the freedom that stopping brings, but will admit I am not enjoying slipping off the invite lists, or not getting quite the level of engagement I have been used to. Having had roles with reasonable levels of recognition rates in the community adjusting to the anonymity I have craved has not been an easy transition.
Social media is full of people and their ‘success’. We all slip into portraying the best version of ourselves and our businesses.
Guess what. Not every day is great and we all find some tough times.
I know it is far more complex than a simple post can cover - but the quote below is helpful. Just remember the self obsessed are just that. The people you crave in life are those that do think of you and truly care!
“you will become way less concerned with what other people think of you when you realize how seldom they do.””
